How does Hearing this feel???
Yes, when you hear those noises,sometimes more than one at any given time, I got to ask you, don’t you go mad, is the constant ringing in your ears too much for you? And I mean it literally, with the tinnitus it feels like you want to just bash your head against the wall, in the hope that maybe , just maybe you can have some peace in your mind.That all the noises you hear that are competing with one another to see who is The LOUDEST, would just stop and give you a break.So you can say Ahhhhhh!!!!! ……….I don’t have to dread the fact that the mind is going crazy and that I am loosing it. Today is a tinnitus-free day, and it’s going to be a wonderful day.
A tinnitus free-day, that is Music, to my ears, actually, I should say music to my ear. Unfortunately, my ringing and the rest of the family of noises are not going to leave me anytime soon. So, looks like coming to terms with this constant ringing in my ears facing it headon is the way forward.
So what then is some of the mental ways that we can use to deal with tinnitus?
- Be Calm and Composed – Its take a lot strength I know, especially since you are dealing with people constantly. When you confront people it feels like going to war, you psyche yourself up. I do everyday, just before a customer comes up to me, I pray, pray that all goes well, that words like “I beg your pardon. Sorry, what did you say? Can you Please repeat yourself“ I don’t have to use and the customer will not get irritated with me. My audiologist, told me a few months back, that when you stress out or even think it that you are not going to hear before the encounter actually happens!! then there is a good possibility you won’t. You already making the situation even more worse than it already is.I have learnt now to calm myself by taking a few deep breaths and take the encounter as it comes, be it as it may.To my surprise, all does go well. There are few hiccups here and there and you can’t make everyone happy.I did not let this bother me though. In fact, I found that it actually helps to disclose to some people about your condition. You will be surprised, they may respond in a more understanding light.
2.Lip read. I think that I am slowly getting to mastering this technique. Lip reading has helped me tremendously, in understanding what people are saying. For obvious reasons it won’t work if people’s back are facing you and at times I even struggle if they are to my side. In a group setting or if someone talks really fast, I tend to also fall behind. Nonetheless, it’s something I find extremely valuable when dealing with tinnitus.
3. Support: It makes life so much easier knowing you have full support and understanding from family and friends. A lot, and I mean a lot of bad thoughts have crept into my mind. I got so angry and wanted to cry at times, it became so unbearable. I look around and see people, be it at the mall, in social setting, on TV anywhere engaging in conversation, and everyone doing it so effortlessly, and here I am struggling to hear one line properly.
I can’t emphasize to you how having a fantastic support circle, helped and is helping me thorough this time My wife would be my side and say, ‘ You are Strong, I am by your Side, we can and will get through this.’ Fortunately, the people at my work, offer me words of encouragement and positivity, which boosts my self-esteem and gives me the strength to go on. My Dad, worries sick about me and the first thing he will say to me when I see him is ” how’s your ear doing?” So, knowing people are with you through the battle makes life a little more comfortable.
I want to conclude this blog by extending an invitation to you to share. Share with me your way of how you deal with tinnitus mentally. How do you deal with the constant ringing in your ears? In addition, I would like to also open the door to tell you that should you feel the need for support or would like to chat more, you may email me, or share below. Oh! please watch this space, I will be having more tips on how to deal with tinnitus using other great techniques like music and alternate health modalities, to name a few. Thank you and see you later.